Oyingbo to Okokomaiko

In front of my wife’s mirror singing ‘wa gba control’ by W4 - a Nigerian artist. I love that part where I have to shout: “girl, you use me like a roll- on”. That’s the part I apply my deodorant (roll-on). The little guy who is whining stops to look up at me. I wink at him and he smiles. In addition to the deodorant or “prespirant” as i love to call it, I also bathed myself with some excess perfume - the journey to work is always long and sweaty and I still need to smell fresh when I get there.

It is better to board the long coaster buses that leave Oyingbo for Okokomaiko directly rather than take the small buses that stop at almost every bus-stop along the road. For those who ply this road daily, they know the cheapest and most sensible option is the long rickety coaster buses: Five people squeeze on a seat designed for four. The bus-conductors beg skinny people like me to sit with the plus-size women for this purpose. The half-empty or half-full buses are to be avoided because the comfortable seats would have already been taken. From experience, it is better to sit on the single seat closest to the exit or you sit up front with the driver. As for other seats, be ready for the worst. It is either you have dirty sacks of “ugwu” leaves shoved on your laps or your white shirt becomes stained by the sweaty and big upper arm of the “ugwu” traders. It seems and sounds unimaginable! It is however painfully so. Even with my concentrated smell of perfume, I get to work smelling of a perfume with a confusing mix of “okporoko” (stock fish) and “ugwu” leaves. There are also the front row seats which are not too tall-people friendly - they have to bend almost to the point of breaking in order to get to these seats. As for the “apoti” (bench) seats in the middle of each rows, not only do they have no back rest, the occupiers have to get up for anyone who wants to alight. Their clothes mostly end up getting stained by shoes of those alighting.

And there are the drug hawkers too. You will enjoy live testimonies and miracles about how a single drug cures almost all ailments. HIV and AIDS drugs are only available in these buses. There are also the stickers with the important messages for those who need them: “Cure for pile and Erectile Dysfunction”; “Magic ring from India”; “Get a job no matter your qualification” etc. Other voices to cheer you up also include the usual morning devotion by some commuters and the occasional cries of “enter with ya change” by the conductor or the agberos shouting at the conductors for loading fees with their breath smelling of “ogidigba”, “alomo”, “asianma” and “shepe”. Of course, the Fulani boys selling “Vicks” also amuses. Their effort at speaking “yoruba” is hilarious. Some of us end up buying Vicks even when we do not need it.

The conductor won't give me my change. I know it is because I look like “aje-butter” dressed up in a suit. At this point I remember the popular tweet “change can't be given to you. You must bring change”.

 You should know how it feels struggling for seats in a bus while dressed in suit. You must guard your pockets lest you lose your phone or wallet. The other option is to take off your jacket and tie at risk of getting your shirt stained. The same applies to when you are alighting. You must be vigilant!

Gbogbo er, o sanwo oo sanwo boole! (All passengers alight!). I still don't know why Lagosians rush down from a bus. The scene is like that of a bus on fire.

When The City Boy Visits The Village

The Stream

The stream was too open! There were some people doing it (answering the call of nature) in the open. Women were beautifully taking their bathes and others doing laundry. It was all beautiful but I could not join in. Not that I was bothered about hygiene. I was too shy to pull down my shorts. I could not fathom people looking at me while I let it out. The forest was the other option. My privacy was sure to be guaranteed there. Escorted by a cousin who is familiar with the terrain, I went to the forest armed with a paper and a cutlass. He chose a good spot for me to do it. After digging a hole with the cutlass, I emptied my full bowels. It was bliss! Fresh air gently soothing my bare buttocks, and a big fly buzzing around trying to perch on the goldmine. The paper came in handy. I swerve it around to swat the fly without success. I was not an expert in using paper to wipe - it is not as tender compared to tissue. I did not wipe well enough, I thought. I called on my cousin somewhere in the thicket also doing his thing. He told me the unimaginable, “use a leaf”. Oh! God! The cave men must have suffered. I felt worse and messier after using a leaf. I had also smeared my shirt in the process of getting the leaf. I felt like shit! All through my way home, my palms came up my nose a number of times. I could smell feaces.

The Food

Garden eggs! My cousin even told me how valuable it was in the household. Little wonder that it is cooked with the soup and serves as meat on our garri during week days. We tasted beef or chicken only on weekends and special days. I felt their parents are wicked – how can one eat carbohydrates with the assumption that garden egg is the protein supplement for the balanced meal. So, i knew it must be a great day when Uncle told us all to take a garden egg each from the basket for a nibble. You could see the joy in my cousins’ faces. That was my first time eating garden egg outside the soup. It tasted kind of sour. My cousin told me watch out for maggots. He joked that the maggots are very good for the body. I think he saw the odd look on my face when I took a bite. He grabbed it from me immediately. I had mistakenly picked up unripe tomato from the basket rather than garden egg.

Others

There were some other good experiences, we stoned down bats at nights; roasted cocoa yam in the wild - nothing beats the taste of cocoa yam and palm oil. I saw how garri was made – it tastes best when freshly made. I tasted some fruits which till today i do not know their names. I saw strangely colored birds. And yes, I killed my first snake; a tiny little creature probably a few days old. A great achievement that is compared to people who only have seen snakes only on TV.

So, when my mom came for a visit, she asked if i was going back home with her. My cousins were there, so I boldly said I was not, like a big boy. When I was alone with her, I confided in her; I could not hide my feelings. I wanted to go home badly. I missed the mattress. I wanted the water closet. I was tired of staying awake all night being scared of different insects flying around the only light bulb in the room.